Philosophy & Code of Conduct

No Sex Gay Weekend helps gay guys form meaningful connections in awesome locations. We believe there’s a deeper, more fulfilling way for gay men to connect and - with intention - aim to create this environment together. 

The “No Sex” philosophy is about seeing each other and ourselves without the lens of objectification, “status”, conquest, or validation through sex. The aim is to escape this self-perpetuating cycle and form friendships, and possibly more, by engaging with each other as people first, not sexual prospects.

The project aims to redefine “fun” in the gay community - we want to help guys connect by sharing interests, trying new things, and creating a warm, open atmosphere of social ease and fun.

There’s a whole world out there, but, sometimes with good reason, we often congregate in places known to be “gay” and thus reduce our options for travel. This project encourages our community to explore places we perhaps wouldn’t normally go to - together.

There is zero tolerance for drugs. Alcohol, if consumed, must be in moderation and the group leader(s) reserve the right to rescind access to the project and events at any time should members behave inappropriately. Be aware that members of the group may be sober; do not question this or make a big deal out of it.

The group aims to create an environment where friends are made - and it would give us great pleasure to hear that meaningful relationships are formed… after.

All members of the group must abide by the essential rule of No Sex for the period of the event. This includes avoiding overtly flirtatious or sexualised behaviour, and definitely not judging people by looks, whether you fancy them a lot or not at all. We can only create this space together.

Welcome and consensual physical contact such as friendly hugs are, of course, fine. Members of the group may share rooms to reduce costs but are doubly encouraged to remember the philosophy of the group. Couples can attend but are encouraged to avoid any romantic or sexual behaviours with each other.

Phones are discouraged, especially some of the apps on them 👀

Be sensitive to others’ privacy and ask before taking or publishing any photos or videos. What’s shared in the group should be treated with sensitivity and a bias towards confidentiality to ensure a safe and welcoming environment.

Be open to connect with all members of the group, take an interest in them, engage with the project with intention.

Be aware that political or social opinions that may seem obvious to you may be contentious to others. Should these be raised, they must be engaged with in a curious and empathetic manner. Be sensitive to how other people feel and be conscious of the warm and welcoming space we are creating - even if you think you are totally right.

Any discriminatory language or behaviour as defined by the UK Equality Act 2010 is forbidden. If you experience or witness anything that makes you uncomfortable, please speak to the group leader(s) privately and promptly. We will handle all concerns with fairness, care and discretion to the best of our ability.

The project will make best efforts to make events accessible within the limits of organisational capacity. Please let us know if you require adjustments.

No Sex Gay Weekend exists to provide an alternative social environment especially for gay men as an antidote to a specific lifestyle and way of connecting. This may change in the future.

We aim to stop the cycle of facilitating and perpetuating the cycle of treating other people - and ourselves - as objects, and we can create a healthier community by making a conscious effort to change our behaviours.

We believe sex can be a joyful, positive, healthy - and essential - part of life. This project aims to create an atmosphere where we can ensure our relationship with it and each other is integrative and positive rather than from a place of needing validation or instant gratification. And it’s just a weekend…

We know that showing up in a new space - especially one like this - can be a little nerve-wracking. We are here to make it warm, welcoming, and a great time. Show up as your full self, with an open heart, and ready to engage in the values of the project. We’re always here to chat if you feel nervous.

All attendees must agree to this Philosophy and Code of Conduct before joining any event.

We can’t wait to create something special with you!

Last revised 7th July 2025