The video that started it all…
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This was the video I made just before I sat down with my notepad on my gay holiday (in a gay hotel) to work out why I was feeling so blue. I wrote down what makes me fulfilled and what makes me feel valueless.
After filling a couple of pages, I turned over a leaf and wrote NO SEX WEEKENDS.
Surrounded by the hyper-sexualisation of places like Torremolinonos - and many others - I wondered how much easier it would be to connect if sex wasn’t the currency and people didn’t feel like products on the shelf.
I realised that the environment creates this as much as anything else and, whenever we engage in it, we perpetuate it ever more.
And where other people are objects to admire, use, discard… so too are we… even those most in demand (not me by the way!)
That’s why I’m creating @nosexgayweekend
Weekends away in non-gay centred but fabulous destinations where we can connect and make friends - and possibly more - but with one rule… no sex!
I’m hoping it will allow everyone there a chance to redefine ‘fun’ to become something more valuable.
Meaningful connections
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Awesome locations
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Meaningful connections * Awesome locations *
👀 What do you mean No Sex?? (and other questions)
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Yep!
But really this is about changing how we look at each other - and ourselves.
In a hypersexualised gay world, we often facilitate and perpetuate the cycle of treating other people - and ourselves - as objects.
This project is not anti-sex, it’s about the intention to connect as people first, and then whatever happens after - great!
And you know what they say about desire when it’s forbidden… 🔥
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There are so many amazing places beyond gay destinations. I’ve been to many places just because they’re “gay” - Torremolinos, Maspalomas, Mykonos - even the cities I’ve chosen to live in… Madrid, London etc.
And yet, and yet!
There is a whole world out there. So we’re going to explore amazing places - gay guys in non-gay destinations.
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From outdoor adventures, cooking and eating together, music and dancing, activities, to social events, exploration, cultural excursions, sharing stories… it’s all about creating connections and making memories.
Example schedules to come!
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Ok there’s already a ban on s*x, we don’t need to go full puritan.
Alcohol will be allowed, but definitely won’t be the focus of the event.
No drugs allowed.
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Absolutely. And they should sign up too!
This project will also be a great place for people in couples who might want to make new friends and do new things.
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Currently yes. This project is a specific alternative to a gay male environment. We may find this changes over time
Who even are you?
Hola, I’m Chris, a Brit in Madrid. I moved here after ten years in London in search of a happier life - and I have to say Spain is delivering 🎉
I post on socials, so it’s probably the best way to get to know me.
See you soon!
What people say about NGSW
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“It was a wonderful time and truly such a lovely experience to meet people in that kind of setting, honestly I had a blast”
Pre-Pride Picnic attendee
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“Thank you for yesterday, had truly a lovely time 😊 let me know when the next one is”
Pre-Pride Picnic attendee
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“Great to meet you and the rest of the guys! Looking forward for the next round”
Pre-Pride Picnic attendee
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“I had a great time. It's been a while since I've gone to an event and it was fun to meet people 😊”
Pre-Pride Picnic attendee
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“I actually loved it”
Pre-Pride Picnic attendee
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“Congratulations! Yesterday was great. Hopefully we have weekends coming up soon!”
Pre-Pride Picnic attendee