Manor House in Devon!
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Manor House in Devon! *
You are cordially invited to enjoy the Manor and Grounds of a Tudor Manor in Devon… all while making quality connections in a truly awesome location!
After the success of our first weekends and events in 2025, where hundreds of guys have travelled the world to make quality connections in awesome locations, we’re proud to present… Lords of the Manor!
Four days, three nights over Easter Bank Holiday! Check-in Friday, check-out Monday morning.
Ever wanted your own Country Mansion experience? We have the whole manor to ourselves! built in 1550, and set in the beautiful Devon countryside, this huge place will host formal dinners, games, luxury living, outdoor time (including lake!)… with lots of opportunities for downtime and making quality connections in a truly awesome location.
With space for up to 22 people, this is going to be like our weekends but even better… a unique experience where you can chill and relax in a beautiful manor with all the best social and fun bits of NSGW.
Read on!
From £595 each!
Includes three nights in the Manor, food and (a reasonable amount of) drink, activities plus quality connections in a truly awesome location!
Arriving late Friday afternoon and leaving Monday morning, we’ll have plenty of time to relax over the long weekend in this awesome Manor house and grounds, get to know each other, eat together, socialise and lots optional activities.
All food will be provided and a reasonable supply of drinks. We will have a formal dinner on one of the nights.
This is time to relax and get to know each other - including cooking together and bringing the best of ourselves to make it an awesome experience. Don’t worry, there are 2 dishwashers and three fridges for all the supplies!
Think of it more as mates in the manor vs a stay at Gleneagles!
Please note, details are subject to change
Here’s the plan!
Your Arrival
Arrive from 6pm and enjoy a welcome drink and settle into your bedchamber, milord! Explore the grounds and the chill before we all meet each other!
In the evening, we’ll have intros, some fun social games, and dinner together (in the amazing Georgian dining room (built in 1739)!)
Mornings
Make a breakfast in the kitchen on the Aga with all food provided. Show off your best omelette-making skills!
Enjoy your coffee strolling around the grounds in the morning sun
Read the news in the library (there’s WiFi)
Or have a lie-in (some are four-posters)!
Daytimes
Sink into a good book in the library, feat. Tudor fireplace and plenty of comfy seats
Play some board games with your new connections
Enjoy some garden games, featuring our own lake
Table tennis in the attic - will you be the champion?
Explore Tudor history in the in-house museum
Explore the Devon countryside, local pubs, brisk walks
Chill and socalise with your fellow Lords!
Evenings
Show off your skills on the Steinway Grand Piano. Chris will bring his book of tunes to accompany you if you wish to sing a solo
Movie night in the TV room - popcorn included
Play the classic game of Sardines in this humungous manor
Murder mystery… bring your best am dram
Note there will be a formal dinner on Saturday
See where the evening takes you!
Fond Farewell (for now!)
Whether you leave on Sunday evening or Monday morning, you’ll be given a warm farewell… and we hope to see you again!
Remember that all activities are optional. You are welcome to have a break/downtime whenever you like!
Cadhay offers a unique opportunity to experience an historic house set in magnificent gardens with medieval fishponds.
Although it is Tudor, the house was heavily restored in the Georgian period.
Built around a central courtyard, it is surprisingly light and a joy to stay in or visit.
The house has been refurbished to a high standard and is full of wonderful furniture and works of art.
Where you’ll be staying…
“This is my first time… I’m kinda nervous!”
Very understandable! If you haven’t been to a NSGW event before, it could feel like a leap of faith.
Join the many others who have done the same and left feeling great about doing so!
Throughout the weekend, this is all about making quality connections and memories together
Chris will make sure everyone meets everyone, whether you’re coming alone, your partner, or with friends.
From our first-night of icebreakers and awesome get-to-know-you games…
…to a last night That-Was-Your-NSGW quiz all about you and our time together!
Philosophy & Code of Conduct
Ensuring everyone feels welcome, safe, and committed to the project is an essential part of making this a success. Please make sure you read this fully before signing up.
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No Sex Gay Weekend helps gay guys form meaningful connections in awesome locations. We believe there’s a deeper, more fulfilling way for gay men to connect and - with intention - aim to create this environment together.
The “No Sex” philosophy is about seeing each other and ourselves without the lens of objectification, “status”, conquest, or validation through sex. The aim is to escape this self-perpetuating cycle and form friendships, and possibly more, by engaging with each other as people first, not sexual prospects.
The project aims to redefine “fun” in the gay community - we want to help guys connect by sharing interests, trying new things, and creating a warm, open atmosphere of social ease and fun.
There’s a whole world out there, but, sometimes with good reason, we often congregate in places known to be “gay” and thus reduce our options for travel. This project encourages our community to explore places we perhaps wouldn’t normally go to - together.
There is zero tolerance for drugs. Alcohol, if consumed, must be in moderation and the group leader(s) reserve the right to rescind access to the project and events at any time should members behave inappropriately. Be aware that members of the group may be sober; do not question this or make a big deal out of it.
The group aims to create an environment where friends are made - and it would give us great pleasure to hear that meaningful relationships are formed… after.
All members of the group must abide by the essential rule of No Sex for the period of the event. This includes avoiding overtly flirtatious or sexualised behaviour, and definitely not judging people by looks, whether you fancy them a lot or not at all. We can only create this space together.
Welcome and consensual physical contact such as friendly hugs are, of course, fine. Members of the group may share rooms to reduce costs but are doubly encouraged to remember the philosophy of the group. Couples can attend but are encouraged to avoid any romantic or sexual behaviours with each other.
Phones are discouraged, especially some of the apps on them 👀
Be sensitive to others’ privacy and ask before taking or publishing any photos or videos. What’s shared in the group should be treated with sensitivity and a bias towards confidentiality to ensure a safe and welcoming environment.
Be open to connect with all members of the group, take an interest in them, engage with the project with intention.
Be aware that political or social opinions that may seem obvious to you may be contentious to others. Should these be raised, they must be engaged with in a curious and empathetic manner. Be sensitive to how other people feel and be conscious of the warm and welcoming space we are creating - even if you think you are totally right.
Any discriminatory language or behaviour as defined by the UK Equality Act 2010 is forbidden. If you experience or witness anything that makes you uncomfortable, please speak to the group leader(s) privately and promptly. We will handle all concerns with fairness, care and discretion to the best of our ability.
The project will make best efforts to make events accessible within the limits of organisational capacity. Please let us know if you require adjustments.
No Sex Gay Weekend exists to provide an alternative social environment especially for gay men as an antidote to a specific lifestyle and way of connecting. This may change in the future.
We aim to stop the cycle of facilitating and perpetuating the cycle of treating other people - and ourselves - as objects, and we can create a healthier community by making a conscious effort to change our behaviours.
We believe sex can be a joyful, positive, healthy - and essential - part of life. This project aims to create an atmosphere where we can ensure our relationship with it and each other is integrative and positive rather than from a place of needing validation or instant gratification. And it’s just a weekend…
We know that showing up in a new space - especially one like this - can be a little nerve-wracking. We are here to make it warm, welcoming, and a great time. Show up as your full self, with an open heart, and ready to engage in the values of the project. We’re always here to chat if you feel nervous.
All attendees must agree to this Philosophy and Code of Conduct before joining any event.
We can’t wait to create something special with you!
Last revised 7th July 2025
Room Options
Every bed is made up for you with clean, fresh white linen and every guest has a soft bath towel and hand towel.
The Manor is mostly doubles and some have four-posters. Some are ensuite, but almost have a dedicated bathroom.
If you’re happy to share for the weekend, it will keep costs down and we can match you in advance.
Food and (a reasonable amount of) drinks are included. Check out the plan lower down the page.
Solo Double
Have a room in the manor to yourself!
£895 per person
Shared Double
If you already have someone you’re happy to share with!
£595 per person, £1190 for the room
Match-Me Double
If you’re coming alone but happy to share a double for the weekend, this could work out cheaper.
£625 per person, subject to availability
Twin Single Room (Shared)
Share a room but with a single bed to yourself, milord. Very limited availability
£775 per person
Four-Poster Premium
Extra £75 per room
Floor Plan of the Manor
Travel and other details
The Manor is 1 mile north west of Ottery St Mary, about 3.5 hours’ drive from London. There is parking and two EV chargers.
The nearest train station is at Feniton (10 mins away by taxi) though more of the Waterloo to Exeter trains call at Honiton (15 mins away by taxi).
For services from Paddington and the North, the stations of Exeter St Davids (30 mins by taxi) or Tiverton Parkway (25 mins by taxi) would be the best option.
Other than St Davids it would be advisable to book a taxi before the start of your journey due to the rural situation of the stations.
👀 What do you mean No Sex?? (and other questions)
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Yep!
But really this is about changing how we look at each other - and ourselves.
In a hypersexualised gay world, we often facilitate and perpetuate the cycle of treating other people - and ourselves - as objects.
This project is not anti-sex, it’s about the intention to connect as people first, and then whatever happens after - great!
And you know what they say about desire when it’s forbidden… 🔥
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YES! Hundreds of guys have joined us since we started in July 2025. Check out our What People Say page.
We’re proud of the friendships, dates, business partnerships and more that have started at NSGW.
The best part is that you’ll go away feeling good about yourself. Where you’ve given other people and yourself a chance to properly connect.
Take the risk to try something new… it’s worth it!
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From outdoor adventures, cooking and eating together, music and dancing, activities, to social events, exploration, cultural excursions, sharing stories… it’s all about creating connections and making memories!
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All food will be provided and a reasonable supply of drinks. We will have a formal dinner on one of the nights.
This is time to relax and get to know each other - including cooking together and bringing the best of ourselves to make it an awesome experience. Don’t worry, there are 2 dishwashers and three fridges for all the supplies!
Think of it more as mates in the manor vs a stay at Gleneagles!
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Ok there’s already a ban on s*x, we don’t need to go full puritan.
Alcohol will be allowed, but definitely won’t be the focus of the event.
No drugs allowed.
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Absolutely. And they should sign up too!
This project will also be a great place for people in couples who might want to make new friends and do new things.
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Currently yes. This project is a specific alternative to a gay male environment. We may find this changes over time
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Sex is good… after!
We chose the name because it states a strong intention about how relate to each other.
The outcome has been that every singlegroup of guys who have joined us has been friendly, warm, and open to chatting and connecting with everyone.
You can tell your mum you’re going on a gay social holiday to meet nice guys ;)
What people say about NGSW
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I have had the BEST time, this was such a freaking good day. Loved meeting you all. Like everyone else I’m so up for meeting again sometime. How did you find such a great bunch Christopher?? Thank you for making this happen! 💚💚
Oxford 2025 attendee
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It was a fantastic weekend, pleasantly surprised how much I enjoyed it. Thank you to Chris for planning the trip, and thank you to literally every person here who were just incredibly friendly great bunch of gays ❤️❤️
Oxford 2025 attendee
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It was a wonderful time and truly such a lovely experience to meet people in that kind of setting, honestly I had a blast
Pre-Pride Picnic attendee
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Massive thanks for the last two days 🙌 was really good meeting you all, chatting, connecting, and laughing off the social awkwardness 😅 Really enjoyed it and would love to keep in touch. Big thanks to Christopher for organising, keep it going, can’t wait for October!
Oxford 2025 attendee
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Just walking back to the car and wanted to say thanks for a brilliant day. It’s rare to meet a such a nice group of guys, so glad to have met you all 🥹
Oxford 2025 attendee
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I had such an awesome time with you folks. You really made my day, it was absolutely lovely to meet you and had such a blast. Punting was definitely an experience 😂 but I want to call out how grateful I am for your friendliness and kindness. You’re a special bunch, it was amazing to have such a cracking time with you!!
Oxford 2025 attendee
Food and Drink
We have a huge kitchen at the Manor, and the idea is that we make the most of the space together, which means you’ll make your own breakfast (with provisions included), and sort your own lunch.
However, it’s called Lords of the Manor and so… included are:
Welcome drink
Friday evening pizza and snacks
Cocktail hour
Formal Saturday Dinner in the Tudor dining room (bring something formal to wear!))
Afternoon Tea on Sunday (scones!)
Self-serve breakfast
Subject to availability and change
Apply to join us now!
Includes three nights in the Manor, food and (a reasonable amount of) drink, activities, and quality connections in a truly awesome location!!
From €595 per person
If you’d like to join us…
Since we’ll be living together (and because I’m expecting high demand), I feel it’s important we get to know each other a bit before.
Therefore, this long weekend will be subject to application.
It might be worth checking out our events or non-residential weekends if you wish to meet in person.
You’ll be asked to complete the form below, pay a non-refundable £200 deposit, and pay the remaining sum within two weeks of your place being accepted otherwise you will lose your space and deposit.
As you will see in the form, this is about ensuring the right vibe for the group.There is very limited capacity, so if there isn’t space for you this time, your deposit will be returned.
Let’s do this!
Filled in the form but didn’t pay? Follow this link!